Getting in the Deep

I always wonder how life balances what is a chance occurrence vs something that is unavoidable. Is life merely a series of predetermined or random coincidences that lead us to where we belong? What ultimately decides whether meeting someone or achieving something is by chance or by fate?

It is an interesting idea that much of our identity is based on our (past, present, future) interactions, relationships, experiences with others. This leads me to ponder the mechanics of a human connection – on what factors make us start the engine, keep the pedal running, or push the breaks on a relationship. Are we ever the sole controllers of forming a human connection, or is there a higher power that governs this – and ultimately who we are as human beings.

 

 

 

 

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A message worth reading

Love this article

“Each step “forward” with technology has made it easier, just a little, to avoid the emotional work of being present, to convey information rather than humanity. The problem with accepting — with preferring — diminished substitutes is that over time, we, too, become diminished substitutes. People who become used to saying little become used to feeling little.”

“We live in a world made up more of story than stuff. We are creatures of memory more than reminders, of love more than likes. Being attentive to the needs of others might not be the point of life, but it is the work of life. It can be messy, and painful, and almost impossibly difficult. But it is not something we give. It is what we get in exchange for having to die.”

growth mindset vs fixed mindset

growth mindset vs fixed mindset

More often than not, our egos get in the way of our growth. We want to look smart and thus tend to ignore negative feedback, give up, and avoid things that seem too challenging.

But how can we grow if we can’t face criticism, challenges, and threats to our character? The only way to learn is to embrace these tests of willpower and adopt a nonemotional, patient attitude towards failure. Don’t let your pride get in the way of your success. Starve the ego, feed the soul.

starve the ego, feed the soul.

I feel that all of us get pretty caught up in appearances. We get consumed in pleasing everyone else by acting “cool”, getting what’s “in”, doing what’s “right”…It ends up to the point where we spend so much time doing all these external things to feed our egos, that we don’t spend nearly enough time investing in our inner selves—finding out who we really are, and what we really want.